Often in traditional counseling, the path to infidelity is a missing piece of consideration. Yet there are many steps away from monogamy into infidelity. As is typically described, the boundary post shifts away a step at a time. Being able to discern the individual steps, thoughts and actions that the betraying spouse took to enter the field of infidelity is a necessary piece. If this is not done, just as history repeats itself if the lessons are not learned, so is the door to repeated infidelity still open.