The betrayed spouse runs amuck with emotion. Some suppress emotions. For other people, emotions reign and overtake your whole being. Unless the counselor understand the mind of the betrayed how to deal with flashbacks, hyper-vigilance and obsessive thoughts are all but ignored. Thoughts and memories that were placed on the shelf have all been brought down for examination. Everything you’ve done for the betraying spouse is examined and re-examined; how could he/she do this to you? If betrayal fallout isn’t addressed, a downward spiral can follow which only makes recovery of both the person and the marriage very difficult.