Traditional marriage counseling has as a cornerstone negotiation as a required tool. However, what if one of the parties has a core belief that he/she is entitled to get or do what he/she wants and doesn’t negotiate. What if that person’s emotional vision of him or herself depends on being the controller of the relationship. Unless each person’s desire to control the other is explored, one of the foundational tools is absent from the tool box. What is agreed to in the counselor’s office isn’t brought home for practice.