In traditional counseling, with the “relationship” being the focus, little consideration is given to outside factors. Often companies demand long hours and may or may not pay accordingly. This leads to stress in at least two major areas, being: lack of availability and lack of finances. A relationship is built on time, effort and input. When an employer demands are excessive and one of the parties is not therefore available, fall out is therefore expected and it has nothing to do with the betrayed spouse. For a counselor to focus exclusively on the betrayed spouse didn’t meet the needs of the betraying spouse is not productive and damaging to the betrayed spouse.
