Step 1
Commitment
What does “Commitment” involve?
“ Unless Commitment is made, there are only
Promises and hope; but no plan.”
Peter F: Drucker
Why is Commitment to Affair Recovery so Important?

Committing to any type affair recovery process is challenging at this time. As a Certified Infidelity Recovery Specialist, I help people understand why each of the seven steps is so important to personal healing, and to rebooting the relationship. Without expertise, advice and encouragement, many people will not have the energy, beliefs, or skills to move through affair recovery and reboot their old relationship.
Commitment to the protocols of the 7 Step program provides the best environment for processing the trauma, and moving forward – either together or apart.
The program is different from marriage counselling or relationship coaching. The focus is on the affair – being either an emotional affair or a physical affair. The Infidelity Recovery Program has a 90% success rate, with active participation and following protocol, whereas traditional Marriage Counselling fails in 75% of cases when addressing the issue of infidelity and affairs.
It is no surprise that an individual or couple having infidelity issues, could have issues with commitment, boundaries, rules, and truth telling.
A couple who doesn’t seek professional help after an affair, will NEVER have the chance for either personal or relationship recovery. Even after 2 years, 10 years, or 20 years plus, the hurt of the betrayal can linger. Psychological long term effects can ruin happiness and commitment in future relationships too. Plus the relationship is also open to new infidelity. Without dealing with the main reasons as to why the affair happened in the first place, an affair may occur again in the future.

Why I can't commit to Affair Recovery?
“ What does not kill us makes us stronger.”
Friedrich Nietzsche
What we will focus on in Step # 1
The goal is to transition the couple from a state of anger, hopelessness and confusion to understanding their relationship and themselves.
The aim is to keep the couple working on the relationship for 90 days.
Couples who complete the 7-step program are less likely to divorce, as they have a new reality of what their relationship needs are, and are willing to work on the relationship moving forward.