Step 4
Sex and Intimacy
Freud once said that when two people make love, there are six people in bed – the couple and their parents. After an affair, add a seventh: the ghost of the lover.
– Janis Abrahms Spring, PD. D – After the Affair Healing the Pain and Rebuilding Trust when a Partner has been Unfaithful
The restoration of the couples’ sexual life and emotional intimacy is the focus of this step. The goal in helping couples recover after an affair is for them to establish a romantic relationship that’s just as passionate as the affair. A healthy marriage offers both passion and reason.
In the 7 Step Infidelity Recovery Program, we will work together through some of the following tasks – taking into considering the affair type:
- The Intimacy Pyramid
- Intimacy Monologues
- Intimacy Interview
- Sexual Touch
- Non-sexual touch
- Foreplay Mapping
- Dating
- Bedroom Environment
- Re-establishing a sex life
We will explore
In this step we will explore the foundation of intimacy:
- the components of the monogamy pyramid: Friendship / Beliefs / Emotional Intimacy /Attachment Style;
- Emotional Foreplay;
- Four types of love
- Building Trust back into the relationship;
- Adolescent thinking;
- Impact of Narcissistic relationship on intimacy; and
- Impact of Intimacy avoidance on intimacy
What we will focus on in Step # 4
The restoration of the couples’ sexual life and emotional intimacy
If you don’t make your partner feel valued and loved outside the bedroom, how can you expect your partner to warm up to you inside the bedroom? Before you complain about your sex life, you should show your partner at least as much tenderness and regard as you lavished on the affair person.
Janis Abrahams Spring, PD. D – After the Affair Healing the Pain and Rebuilding Trust When a Partner Has Been Unfaithful